By: emily anne

In reply to Heather. !!!! This happens to me so often, oh my god. How many times have I gone out with a handful of my close girl friends (all femme lesbians like me) and get approached by frat boys who just won't quit no matter how hard we try to explain (nicely at first, then aggressively as they persist) that really, we're not interested-- it's always how gay are you, how do you know if you've never tried it, come on prove it-- it's enough to make me want to scream. It's one part the inability to comprehend that what we choose to wear has nothing to do with them, and one part the persistent need to ensure that there's not even a sliver of a chance that we're interested in sleeping with them. UGH. Passing is a privilege, but not without its own problems. :/