By: claire7

In reply to Nicki.

Oh my gosh, this is something I think about constantly in relation to newly noticing & taking action on my submissive desires. Alaina, or anyone, I would love if you would write about this!

Like, I know that sex and sexual desires are supposed to be separated from your real life, something you can explore without shame. But sex IS part of real life, and I’m in the same boat: I just want to know the relationship between the things I fight for in my real life and why I find it erotic to create a power dynamic in a place that for me, didn’t have them!

Maybe there is no real answer to “why,” and maybe there’s nothing to say about it except to keep sex mentally separated from life… but I’d loooove to hear thoughts on this from people with more kink experience.